Learn about mindfulness and compassion-based tools to nurture and empower caregivers as they serve the needs of others.

About the guest:
Roy Remer is the executive director of the Zen Caregiving Project in San Francisco and the lead creator of the Mindful Caregiving Education curriculum. He is an educator and end-of-life caregiver since 1997 and a dedicated practitioner in the Soto Zen tradition. Roy is also the author of Zen Caregiving: How to Care for Yourself While Caring for Others. Learn more at the website:
In this episode:
- Being a caregiver is part of the human experience and will affect most of us
- Caregiving can be a pathway for growth but certain illnesses (especially dementia) can exact a huge toll on caregivers
- The value of learning genuine presence
- How this book can help everyone be better prepared in the future to become a caregiver
- How serving others differs from helping, which is outcome focused
- Our compassion is incomplete if we don’t also care for ourselves
- Caregivers do not receive adequate preparation or support physically, emotionally, or spiritually for the task of caring for others
- Why grief and guilt are common experiences of caregivers
- Simple rituals for processing grief while providing care
Links mentioned in this episode:
Resources:
- Caregiver Self Assessment Questionnaire
- Caregiver Online Support Circles
- Guided Meditations for Caregivers
- Field Guide to What Really Matters: Presence
Related episodes:
- Navigating Life as a Dementia Caregiver with Beverly Thorn PhD
- Care Boss: Strategies for Family Caregivers with Jennifer A. O’Brien
- Practical Tools for Home Caregivers with Barbara Karnes RN
- Contemplative Practices for Death and Grief with Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison
Other links:
- What Really Matters Podcast: Presence – The Most Important Skill for Uncertain Times
- Hospice Wisdom with Barbara Karnes Resource Page
- 7 Lessons for Living from the Dying by Karen Wyatt MD
- Latest post on Substack: We Need Another Word for Grief
- What Really Matters Podcast: Roses for Tracey and Grief with Wings
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Tune in to a series of brief webinars by 5 new teachers of death and dying classes. They share excerpts from their courses that we hope will inspire you to want to teach your own community class based on your knowledge, experience and passion for end-of-life issues. 
In this episode I share some recent studies that validate the fact that being aware of death has positive effects on behavior toward others. This is evidence that we need more classes, workshops, books, films, and discussion groups about death in order to promote health, peace, tolerance, and compassion in the world.
You can also get the Teaching Guidelines for a Death & Dying Class