On the ninth of each month we have been called to hold space in our communities on life, death and transformation by ObservetheNinth.org. Today’s vigil will hold space for our own broken hearts, broken communities, and broken world. May it bring you peace and comfort.
Special Event Hosted by Alua Arthur of Going with Grace:
“Sayin it Louder: A Conversation about “A Good Death” in a racist society”
Wednesday June 10th – 4 pm Pacific/7 pm Eastern
An online panel discussion with Alua Arthur and five Black leaders in the end-of-life space. Don’t miss this important conversation. Register at the link below:
Recognize that racism is everywhere, including within me, no matter how liberal or educated or conscious or caring I am.
Racism in America is like dust in the air: It seems invisible–even if you’re choking on it–until you let the sun in. Then you see it’s everywhere.”Kareem Abdul-Jabbar
Listen and learn from people different from me.
It’s up to all of us—Black, white, everyone—no matter how well-meaning we think we might be, to do the honest, uncomfortable work of rooting it out. It starts with self-examination and listening to those whose lives are different from our own.Michelle Obama
Be “un-fragile” and hold myself accountable for my unconscious bias and racism.
It is white people’s responsibility to be less fragile; people of color don’t need to twist themselves into knots trying to navigate us as painlessly as possible.”Robin DiAngelo
Be “anti-racist” rather than “not a racist.”
The beauty of anti-racism is that you don’t have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it’s the only way forward.”Ijeoma Oluo
Shine light on the shadow of racism and bring love to every situation.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.Martin Luther King, Jr.
Resources for Anti-Racism:
“Racism Defined” by Dismantling Racism Works
“Welcome To The Anti-Racism Movement — Here’s What You’ve Missed” by Ijeoma Oluo
“Why the CVS Burned” by Louis Hyman
“How to Make this Moment the Turning Point for Real Change” by Barack Obama
“A Very Abbreviated History of the Destruction of Black Neighborhoods” by Gabrielle Bruney
“The Subtle Linguistics of Polite White Supremacy” by Yawo Brown
“The Case for Reparations” by Ta-Nehisi Coates
“How to Talk to Your Family About Racism on Thanksgiving” by Rachel Elizabeth Cargle
Passed On: African American Mourning Stories – a memorial by Karla FC Holloway (Amazon)
Learn how creativity can help us process our feelings of grief and sadness to become more whole during times of difficulty.
My guest Claudia Coenen is certified in grief counseling and thanatology and is also a musician, dancer, writer, and chef who utilizes creative process and somatic therapy in her work with clients. She is also the author of two books – “Shattered by Grief: Picking up the pieces to become WHOLE again” and “The Creative Toolkit for Working With Grief and Bereavement: A Practitioner’s Guide”. Today Claudia shares how creativity can help all of us deal with our grief and sadness as we cope with the global pandemic and some specific tools for fostering resilience and healing in a time of distress. Learn more about her work at her website:
This episode includes:
- How creativity can help us deal with trauma, loss and grief
- Why everyone is creative – even if they don’t know it
- Creative activities for addressing fear during the pandemic
- Fear and Action Worksheet
- Shield Collage
- Resilience basket
- How various models for grief can help us get in touch with our emotions
- Shattering of the Assumptive World
- Dual Process
- Companioning Model
- A daily ritual for acknowledging the current collective grief of humankind: Lovingkindness Meditation for the Pandemic
May we be at peace.
May we be healthy and strong.
May we be open-hearted.
May we remember we are all connected.”from Lovingkindness Meditation for the Pandemic
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Pre-Order 7 Lessons for Living from the Dying here
- Claudia’s Website: The Karuna Project
- Get Claudia’s Book here: Shattered by Grief: Picking up the pieces to become WHOLE again
- Pre-Order Claudia’s new book here: The Creative Toolkit for Working with Grief and Bereavement
- View Karuna Cards here
- Shattering of the Assumptive World grief model – Ronnie Janoff-Bulman book
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