EOLPodcast, Grief

Ep. 264 Grief 2 Growth: Loss, Consciousness, and Overcoming Racism with Brian Smith

Learn how grief and loss can be the fuel for spiritual growth.

My guest Brian Smith is a certified life coach and grief guide who suffered his own grief experience after the tragic death of his daughter. Through his personal journey of navigating grief he discovered techniques for surviving loss that led to writing the book: Grief 2 Growth: Planted, Not Buried and creating the Grief 2 Growth Podcast. He shares the wisdom he has learned and how dealing with grief can help us grow spiritually as individuals and as a community. Learn more at his website:


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This episode includes:

  • How Brian overcame his severe fear of death
  • The process of grief and how it varies for everyone
  • Guilt after the death of loved one
  • How Brian works with people who are grieving
  • Why some people fear that making progress through grief will dishonor their loved one
  • How toxic religious beliefs can harm our experience of grief
  • Brian’s perception of the afterlife based on reason and evidence
  • What “planted, not buried” means
  • How grief work is an essential component for overcoming racism in society

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Special Episode: Vigil for Overcoming Fear

On the ninth of each month we have been called to hold space in our communities on life, death and transformation by ObservetheNinth.org. Today’s vigil will hold space for love and compassion for all of humankind and for the planet itself. May it bring you peace and comfort.

Vigil for Overcoming Fear

Ep. 250 Anti-Racism: The Inner and Outer Work

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Special Event Hosted by Alua Arthur of Going with Grace:

“Sayin it Louder: A Conversation about “A Good Death” in a racist society”

Wednesday June 10th – 4 pm Pacific/7 pm Eastern

An online panel discussion with Alua Arthur and five Black leaders in the end-of-life space. Don’t miss this important conversation. Register at the link below:


My commitments:

Recognize that racism is everywhere, including within me, no matter how liberal or educated or conscious or caring I am.

Racism in America is like dust in the air: It seems invisible–even if you’re choking on it–until you let the sun in. Then you see it’s everywhere.”

Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Listen and learn from people different from me.

It’s up to all of us—Black, white, everyone—no matter how well-meaning we think we might be, to do the honest, uncomfortable work of rooting it out. It starts with self-examination and listening to those whose lives are different from our own. 

Michelle Obama

Be “un-fragile” and hold myself accountable for my unconscious bias and racism.

It is white people’s responsibility to be less fragile; people of color don’t need to twist themselves into knots trying to navigate us as painlessly as possible.”

Robin DiAngelo

Be “anti-racist” rather than “not a racist.”

The beauty of anti-racism is that you don’t have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it’s the only way forward.”

Ijeoma Oluo

Shine light on the shadow of racism and bring love to every situation.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Resources for Anti-Racism:


“Dismantling White Fragility” from The Goop Podcast (Stitcher / Apple Podcasts / Spotify)

“Let’s Talk about Whiteness” from On Being with Krista Tippett (On Being / Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Stitcher)

“Why The Coronavirus Is Hitting Black Communities Hardest” from NPR’s Code Switch (NPR / Stitcher / Apple Podcasts / Spotify)

“Miss Buchanan’s Period of Adjustment” Season 2, Episode 3 of Revisionist History (Stitcher / Apple Podcasts / Spotify)


Racism Defined” by Dismantling Racism Works

Welcome To The Anti-Racism Movement — Here’s What You’ve Missed” by Ijeoma Oluo

Why the CVS Burned” by Louis Hyman 

How to Make this Moment the Turning Point for Real Change” by Barack Obama 

A Very Abbreviated History of the Destruction of Black Neighborhoods” by Gabrielle Bruney

The Subtle Linguistics of Polite White Supremacy” by Yawo Brown 

Amy Cooper, White Spaces and the Political Project of Whiteness” by Lara Witt

The Case for Reparations” by Ta-Nehisi Coates

How to Talk to Your Family About Racism on Thanksgiving” by Rachel Elizabeth Cargle 


Passed On: African American Mourning Stories – a memorial by Karla FC Holloway (Amazon)

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo, PhD (Amazon / Bookshop

How To Be Antiracist by Ibram X Kendi (Amazon / Bookshop)

White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide by Carol Anderson (Amazon / Bookshop

Raising Our Hands: How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Frontlines by Jenna Arnold out June 23, 2020 (Amazon / Bookshop

When They Call You a Terrorist: A Black Lives Matter Memoir by Patrisse Khan-Cullors and asha bandele (Amazon / Bookshop

How To Be Less Stupid About Race: On Racism, White Supremacy, and the Racial Divide by Crystal M Fleming (Amazon / Bookshop

So You Wanna Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo (Amazon / Bookshop