Ep. 282 The Beauty of What Remains with Rabbi Steve Leder

Listen as Rabbi Steve Leder shares the wisdom learned through caring for the spiritual needs of his temple members at the end of life.

My guest Rabbi Steve Leder is the senior rabbi of Wilshire Boulevard Temple in Los Angeles and the author of several books including the recently released The Beauty of What Remains: How Our Greatest Fear Becomes Our Greatest Gift. His beautifully-written book is based upon his experience providing spiritual care to thousands of temple members and their families as they faced the end of life. Interwoven with dozens of stories he learned as “Rabbi Steve” are the personal stories of “Son Steve”, navigating his father’s illness and eventual death from Alzheimer’s dementia. We share a deep and thoughtful conversation about the challenges of facing death and the beautiful life lessons it teaches us. Learn more about Rabbi Steve’s work at his website:


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This episode includes:

  • What inspired Rabbi Steve to write this book
  • The meaning of the title “The Beauty of What Remains”
  • Advice for how to “show up” for the dying
  • Dealing with the character flaws and secrets of the deceased when writing a eulogy
  • The need for greater honesty and authenticity when being with the dying
  • Why we can’t understand deep grief until we experience it ourselves
  • Why funerals during COVID may actually be more meaningful than before
  • How the dead speak to us through our memories
  • Why we must focus on “being a good ancestor” to those who will follow us

“Dying makes perfect sense to the dying, just not to the living; the same way that breathing underwater makes perfect sense to the fish but not to us.”

Rabbi Steve Leder

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  • Get The Beauty of What Remains here
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BONUS 14: Love Over Fear – Stories for Precarious Times

Welcome to this weekly bonus series of brief stories designed to touch your heart and offer you comfort, joy, laughter, and inspiration as we face uncertain times together! Remember always to choose LOVE over fear!

Story 14: Connecting the Dots

Connecting the Dots

Featured Quote:

By Steve Jobs

You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

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Ep. 226 The Afterlife of Billy Fingers and Learning About Life and Death with Annie Kagan

Learn how Annie Kagan received after-death communications from her brother that showed her how to navigate life with joy and love.

My guest Annie Kagan is a singer/songwriter and former chiropractor who began receiving communications from her brother Billy shortly after his death. Even though Billy had lived a troubled and colorful life he revealed to Annie that he had tapped into great spiritual wisdom in the afterlife and wanted to write a book with her. She shares her story and Billy’s wisdom in this interview as we discuss the book The Afterlife of Billy Fingers: How My Bad-Boy Brother Proved To Me There’s Life After Death. Learn more at the website:


Get the book here.

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This episode includes:

  • How Billy provided Annie with proof of his contact
  • Annie’s journey through grief and guilt as guided by Billy
  • How Annie’s life was changed through Billy’s messages
  • How Annie’s intense meditation practice prepared her to receive communication with Billy
  • Tips for enhancing afterlife communication with a loved one
    • Speak as though they can hear you
    • Trust your own inner knowing
    • Trust the signs you see
  • Why it is important to accept the mystery of life and death and how the medical system denies mystery
  • Billy’s lessons for life and why we have to train ourselves to focus on loving the life we have
  • Why we shouldn’t fear grief or try to avoid it

See life through your own eyes not through the lens of another.

– Billy fingers

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