beginner's mind – End of Life University

Learn how a Buddhist approach to death and dying can help us come to terms with our mortality.

My guest Sallie Tisdale is a nurse and the author of ten books, including Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them.) She has worked as a registered nurse and taught at Reed College, Northwestern University, and New York University. A largely self-taught writer on health and medical issues, Tisdale has contributed to the Antioch Review, Tricycle, Harper’s Magazine, and the New Yorker. She shares what inspired her to write about death and dying and what she hopes people will take away from her book. Learn more at her website:

www.sallietisdale.com

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This episode includes:

How Sallie has balanced dual careers as a nurse and writer
Sallie’s current work as a nurse and a trainer for caregivers
How the Buddhist approach to death and dying has been a lens for Sallie in her work
The importance of bringing joy into death and dying
How grief can help us feel connected to everyone on the planet
How death is “brand new” every time we encounter it and the importance of beginner’s mind
Advice for people going to visit a dying person
Why our efforts to increase advance care planning may be failing
How to help people make choices about pain management and level of sedation
What people need to understand about hospice care at home

Links mentioned in this episode:

Film recommendation: Dick Johnson is Dead
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Conversations on Death with ChatGPT – Audiobook here; Print Book here
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Learn why being present and quiet can be the best way to help people at the end of life.

Deanna Cochran, hospice nurse, EOL doula, and founder of the CareDoula® School of Accompanying the Dying returns in this episode for Part 2 of our “deep dive” conversation (check out Part 1 here.) We talk about the impact of COVID on end-of-life work and how it has brought to our awareness the inequities that exist in our society and in healthcare. Caring for ourselves is another important topic of our discussion and Deanna shares how she stays sane while doing incredibly stressful work. Learn more at Deanna’s website:

www.certifiedcaredoula.com

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This episode includes:

The lessons learned from dealing with COVID
Why a commitment to self-care is necessary for end-of-life workers
The practices Deanna relies upon to maintain physical, emotional and spiritual health while doing this work
Choosing language around death and dying that people are comfortable with
Allowing awareness of death to unfold for other people on their own time frame
Why being quiet and saying nothing is sometimes the most helpful thing we can do
The blessing of beginner’s mind vs the challenge of expertise
“Guiding from behind” and knowing when to take charge

Links mentioned in this episode:

Part 1 of the Deep Dive with Deanna
Dr. Gabor Maté
Dr. Diane Meier
Dr. Ira Byock: Dying Well
Sign up for the 2021 online reading group A Year of Reading Dangerously at this link
Support your local bookstore by buying my books on Bookshop and Indiebound: 7 Lessons for Living from the Dying and The Journey from Ego to Soul
Subscribe to this podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, iHeart Radio, Stitcher Radio
Check out the Series I’ve recorded in the past here
Join the team at Patreon.com/eolu and get access to the EOLU mug: “Mind if we talk about death?” (only Patrons can purchase it). PLUS get our new bonuses: the monthly EOL News Update, movie reviews from 2 Doctors and a Movie, and automatic access to A Year of Reading Dangerously!

If you enjoy this content please share it with others and consider leaving a review on iTunes. Thanks again to all supporters on my page at Patreon.com/eolu! Your contributions make all the difference.